You would think writing about your marriage would be one of the easiest things to do… I mean you love each other so much and you have all these warm fuzzy feelings that you can’t even stand it. Right? That’s sarcasm at its finest.

I wished I could tell you what a fairytale our marriage has been. That’s the hope of every little girl, a beautiful wedding, with a beautiful dress and a happily ever after with her Prince.  Instead of feeling like a princess, I feel more like a warrior.

High school sweethearts, that’s how we started out, and seven years later we were married on a rainy, cold day in May, 2003. Despite the rain, loving friends and family surrounded us and the day was filled with joy, laughter, and promises of how wonderful life would be.

The journey our marriage has been on and is currently still on, has been a journey full of sacrifices, heartbreaks, and disappointments but has also brought much joy, much understanding and much love.

We would like to share with other couples how God has been a part of the experiences we have had throughout our journey.

Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh,” Mark 10:8 says “and the two shall become one flesh so they are no longer two but one.”

When we were just newlyweds we had an argument, which led me to run home to my mama. I went to my mom in hopes that I could vent to her and tell her how awful my husband was and cry on her shoulder believing she would completely defend me. That was the furthest thing from what happened.  She looked at me sternly but with a loving voice and said, “No, Amy, God doesn’t intend for you to run here with this. Go home and talk it out with Jason. You are married now and he is your husband”.  At the time I could not believe what I was hearing. At first I was hurt, but now I am so thankful for a Godly mother who understood Genesis 2:24 and Mark 10:8 and gave me advice that came from God’s word. Although this was a hard lesson for us, having a positive role model to lead us to God’s word and God’s plan for marriage has set the foundation for us throughout the years.

In August 2004 we became parents to a precious son. Little did we know that one of the biggest trials our marriage would face, would come shortly after with the death of my mom in October of 2004, just weeks after becoming new parents. It took our marriage down some paths that we honestly had to fight tooth and nail to hold it together.  I was completely broken and Jason had no idea what to do or how to handle a broken wife and being a parent for the first time.

At a time when I couldn’t fight, my husband did. He fought for our marriage and was a true warrior and I am so grateful for a husband that relied on Ephesians 5:25 which states “Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”  At this point in our marriage is when we learned that feelings can not determine the truth of what God’s word says about marriage.  Your feelings will come and go but the foundation in which you build your marriage on will stand firm if that foundation is in Christ.

Many married couples will say they never had any problems until they had kids. That statement does not define our marriage in the least. With children comes a different responsibility. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Jason and I fail often in teaching Clint, Carson and Cole about what their God given purpose is and what God wants for their life. We fail often in teaching these three boys about the importance of their relationship with Christ. We also fail often in teaching them the role God intends for them as a husband and father.

Although we fail daily at parenting we still fight hard for them to know the Lord, His promises and love for us. Thank God for his Grace that covers us when we fail at things He has entrusted to us such as each other and our children.

Although Jason and I can’t give you a fairytale story or paint a pretty picture of our marriage, we can offer you the beautiful truth that marriage was designed to be a resemblance of how Christ loved the Church.

Never let any problem you face in your marriage be more important than the marriage itself.  Life will bring troubles and challenging times. Relationships you have with your spouse and your children will include struggles, but our hope is not found in our circumstances but it is found in the Lord.

Jason and Amy